Hi! I'm Hilary and I'm passionate about helping mothers and daughters heal their relationship with themselves and each other so they can move through life with ease.
I arrived at this place as a mother-daughter expert organically, as I come from a family with three daughters. We all have our own close relationships with our mother. Growing up in a home with so many females and a strong mother as a model, I developed an eye for feminist rights and issues early on.
When I became a therapist for teen girls, almost every client had unresolved conflict with their mother but also would refuse to let them in the room. I would see it time and time again, girls rejecting their well intentioned mothers who kept missing the mark. I knew they both needed and craved a close relationship with each other, so I wanted to get to what was at the root of their mother-daughter conflict.
I felt this dynamic in my bones as my mother and I battled during my teen years. Then as I got older we just kept it moving, not talking much about how painful my teen years were for both of us. I consider myself a recovered teen girl. You too? You're my kind of people.
So when I had my own daughter, it all came full circle because I could now see it from a mother’s perspective. Having this shaky ground as my foundation pushed me to heal the pain from my past with my mother. I knew if I was going to have the relationship I wanted with my own daughter, I needed to repair the past first. I also had my mother’s voice ringing in my ears, “Just wait until you have a daughter and she treats you like this…”. 😬
What I've learned is that when we look behind us, we can heal. We can do better for our daughters. But before we can heal we need to figure out the why behind the struggle we had with our own mothers. And our mother with her mother. And so on down the motherline. It's after this work that we can make a plan for change for the next generation of females.
Now I support mothers of girls, young women and the mother-daughter couple to embrace their strengths, stop fighting over who needs to be heard and finally feel understood, grounded and loved.
The Official Details
I've been a therapist in private practice for thirteen years. In fact, my roots with mothers and daughters began on my very first day as I welcomed a mother and her 13 year old daughter into my office. Prior to coaching and counseling mothers and daughters, I was an Elementary School Counselor and then earned a License in Professional Counseling and helped children and families, with a focus on girls ages 12-25.
I have a Master's degree in Counseling, am a Certified Teen Girls Life Coach and a Certified Mother-Daughter Coach. I am on the teaching faculty at Mother-Daughter Coaching International and regularly run Women's Power Circles, Mother's Groups, facilitate mother-daughter workshops and weekend retreats. This foundation allows me to combine years of experience helping girls and women with my expertise on the power and healing we gain from having a secure mother-daughter relationship.
When I'm not doing my part to better the lives of women across the world, I love going on adventures with my family, creating a home filled with love and wonder and enjoying my charming Pennsylvania town.